I don't understand why your husband ask you to give up the opportunity of this precious 36000 opportunity. Working with two legs for one family will definitely be much better than one. Even though your husband has nothing yet to support the family.
And to be frankly, Everything in Canada is running under some quite different rules. I don't want to assess it is right or not. But how are you going to fit yourself in and adpate the style here is very important to your family.
You don't like it, refuse to play with it follow the rule, you lose the game. The other way, change your mind, put all your historical
glory behind your back and move forward firmly and slowly. you will find something different.
Get a job within 3 months has already proved yourself quite a lot. It cost me 8 months to get my first one here. But I never regrets to be here. I start to know who I am and what I need.
And be awared that there is no where is perfect, the only thing is
where you like a little bit more, make your mind, stay and enjoy or go back. either way is good.
Some "strange" situation here:
1. The most successful (in terms of salary) classmate I have here is the most peculiar personnel believed during our university time
2. Personallty sometime may even more important than skills
3. Degree not always respceted in Canada ( I hate to write this one, but I have to)
4. Whatever rules applied to common people all over world are even better developed and being used here (Flattering, Appreciation, Gift to your boss, smoke and beer with colleagues, etc)
... ...
Anyway, like the last sentence of the "Gone With The Wind":
Tormorrow will be a different new day for anyone.
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hyacinth
2004-06-29 18:39
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Oprah Winfrey说"My feet are still on the ground, I'm just wearing better shoes." 那是第一个成为世界最富有的100位富豪的黑人女性。人家不过是穿了好一点的鞋，这位楼主吃个KFC，PIZZA去IKEA购物就飞上天了。
人人都虚荣，都有想要炫耀的念头，但是，至少拿点什么不叫人贻笑大方的东西出来讲讲成吗？
即使在北京你也不过是个普通的小白领，千万别太拿自己当回事了。
《走下神坛的毛泽东》有人爱看，你飞的最高的时候不过是汉威的写字楼一个阁断，走的最远你不是才去趟新马泰吗？
一名来自中国的男性移民今晨九点二十分左右从士嘉堡十四层高的住所坠落身亡，遗下妻子及一名三岁、一名数月大的两位孩子，情景相当凄惨。
据星星生活报道，堕楼地点是位于Warden和Sheppard交界附近的25 Bay Mills Blvd.。现场一位与死者相熟的男性相当悲恸地告诉星星生活的记者：他与死者是朋友，死者来加拿大已有好几年，他平时性格并不内向，周六（6月26日）他还和死者一起玩。关于死因，他不愿作过多的透露。他承认，死者这些天确实是很犹豫，压力很大，面临着新的抉择。
而有知情者则说士嘉堡华人坠楼原因是遭公司解雇。
刚搬到这幢公寓3个月的中国移民黄先生与该移民有过一面之交，他说该同胞外表形象非常好，人很高，斯斯文文的。同时听别人说，这位移民到加拿大来之后一直非常顺，所谓的“顺”可能是指找到的工作是和专业对口的实验室工作，而他的太太一直没有工作。早前正因为太太要生第二胎，可能牵涉到福利和加薪方面的要求遭拒，结果被老板解雇。
当记者在电梯偶遇一位怀抱婴儿的华裔女士，询问是否知道发生的事情时，没想到该女士指指怀抱的婴儿，说这就是他们家的3个月大的小孩。小女婴眉毛通红，显然刚刚还在啼哭，白皙的皮肤映衬着黑溜溜的双眼，好奇地东张西望。这位姓马的女士也是从大陆过来的，本来和死者家庭不熟，但因为她女儿和他们是同一个基督教会的，所以今天一听到这个消息，便过来帮忙，她说，谁家里出了这样的事都会崩溃的，他们家还有一个3岁的儿子，现在还有几个热心人在家里照看死者的太太和儿子。
住在楼里的刘女士表示，自己虽然不认识该家庭，但为发生这样的悲剧事情深表同情和遗憾。她说，住在这幢公寓楼的来自大陆的移民大部分都有稳定的工作，而其中很多家庭都有小孩子，所以在茶余饭后，大家带着或抱着小孩会聚在花园聊聊天，大多都比较熟悉，但唯独想不起认识14楼这家。她表示，移民来到加拿大肯定都会碰到很多挫折和打击，但在平日聊天中，左邻右里的移民朋友都持着比较乐观和积极的态度。记者了解到，这里的二房一厅带Den的公寓月租为$1095，而租公寓也需要提供雇主的 Job Letter 等证明，这就是为什么刘女士说这幢楼的大部分居民都应该有稳定工作。
一些居住在这栋楼房的中国人还告诉记者：这栋楼因为距离公车站比较近，交通十分方便，所以有很多来自中国的新移民居住在这里，他们对死者的选择表示无奈，他们呼吁，今日是大选日，发生这样的事情，希望能给当选者上一课，希望加拿大政府以及我们整个社会，要重视新移民问题，帮助他们尽快适应社会。
6月28日是四年一度的联邦大选日，在案发现场，记者就移民堕楼与大选日的“巧合”采访了路人、邻居与警察，他们就此都不愿作正面的回答。一名不愿透露姓名的路人对星星生活、星网记者说：“不管是什么原因诱发，个人认为，该名移民选择结束生命的做法，应该是不堪压力、困惑以及失望造成。”该名路人认为：随着大批新移民的到来，他们在就业、生活、安居、资格承认等方面将会遇到更多的问题，希望我们的社会、我们的政府、以及我们的社区，当然还有我们的新闻媒体，应该通过这件事件引起足够的重视，关心他们，是关心社会建设的一部分。
社区人士对星星生活记者表示，这一事件也为当日进行的联邦大选蒙上一层阴影。
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9bulaoshi
2004-06-27 23:28
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I don't think it's good for you to stay any longer here in Toronto. From what you said, you seem not likely a women who'd like to be a housewife and lead a plain life. And you're too rushed to get married...You seem not to be comfortable with everything here in NA. After youself a key question, do you love you hubby, from the bottom of your heart? If the answer is yes but not quite sure (because he is so kind to you and you've to rely on him here), that's not good. It's too bad if you even have no passion and enthusiasm. Then it's time for you to go back China. At least you have your own house there. Most of all, you can have your own life there, freely...
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The only impression I have is the sky is blue here....
人在异乡：来加10个月了 越待越苦闷……