I think you should get a divorce, he will never change, his family will be always #1 in his priority, and it is not good for your children either in this kind of no love family. And the money issue will be always a pain between you and your husband even if someday you work things out.
But you know your situation the best, no one else can tell you what you should do, but be prepared that it will be hard if you ever get a divorce, it will be hard for you, your kids and your husband.
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无忧了
2012-10-18 13:58
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说来说去都是一个钱字，有钱真好。
诸位以后就别假装跟钱有仇了，拜托。。。
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北方的南方思念
2012-10-18 13:48
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Totallt agree with your point, warking hard make more mone, then relax with your kids after work. Your life is on your hand.
好好想一想， 你们是不是在用别人的错误惩罚自己。 你的婚姻幸福远比那些金钱要重要得多。
其实你老公也应该多少认识到他自己的错。 爱是包容，忍耐， 试着原谅他， 他也会感激你的。 失去的钱， 能拿回多少 现在对你的生活 会产生根本的变化吗？ let it go, you will start enjoy other part of the life.
Good Luck!
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Allen Realtor 008
2012-10-18 12:07
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so simple. Your husband is good person, that is it!
Would you use $20K to buy a good husband and happy family? I do think it worth it!
Just let him know this is your bottom line, no more money for his family member anymore.
Just be generous and you will be happy and have everything.
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alicebi
2012-10-18 11:26
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I have exactly same situation as you. same pain as you have.
even we understand this 不值得 us 托付一生 now, but how difficult to separate since 2 kids here.
So I just want younger girl be more careful before you marry with one man.
(Sorry, my current computer can not type Chinese)
想不明白：到底谁毁了我们16年的婚姻？