"虐母案"网友一边倒：朋友邻居齐喊冤

因为7岁的女儿抱怨，就这样做？你们做榜样，你们的女儿以后也会一样对待你们。其实应该借次机会教育小孩，让她帮助奶奶倒尿盆，帮助你们照顾奶奶。前不久看到，一位报道，国内一位汉子出了车祸，截肢后他妻子带着女儿离开了，后来又把女儿送了回来。这位三岁的女孩，承担起照顾父亲的责任。小小的年纪手端尿盆的照片，令人感动，难以忘怀。

我看了全部回帖，很是感慨。被警察带走的那对夫妇看来平时人缘不错，交下了几个铁哥们。他们出来后会感激你的。不过，警察带走他们夫妇是看老人被放到车库里而且冻伤了的这个结果。结果决定了一切。说别的都没有用处。 实际上，你如果真的想帮你的朋友，应该写些文字上的东西，然后签名交给律师。这里就是个论坛，你无论怎样为他们解释， 都没有太大用处的， 因为法官和陪审团都没有在坛子里，何况整个多伦多都知道了这件事。

如果说这也合理，那么说我们中国人连最起码的人性都没了。

不知道为什么有的朋友擅长于"不惮以最坏的恶意来揣测中国人的": - 这个儿子打急救电话，有的朋友就是认为：如果不打电话，母亲死了就会有杀人罪； - 这个儿子装修了车房，有的朋友认为：那是想等老母亲走了以后，出租给别人； - 这对夫妻咨询工作问题，有的朋友认为：那一定是咨询老母亲快死了，怎么收摊？或者干脆就是咨询法律，如何合法弄死老太太； - 几个邻居为这对可怜的夫妻说两句话：有的朋友就认为：那他们一定是这对夫妻的二奶或者小三。 你们这些想法，每一个想法都令人大跌眼镜。为什么你们这么聪明，为什么你们反应这么快？为什么你们头脑里有这么多邪恶的念头？这是为什么呀？ 用宗教的语言，那是因为邪恶首先占据了你的心灵。要拯救的好像不光是他们。

回复 Jackofall：工作问题可以去找工作的地方，及政府部门，而不是找律师，咨询是免费的吗？

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同意. 说的是实在话. 老糖还是有脑子的. 不象很多华人落井下石. 迫不得已表明自己清高,有道德.实际上95%的中国人都不是什么好鸟. 老糖骗理财,也是生活逼迫.试问,加拿大理财的那个不是骗子?为什么得那老糖开堂破肚呢?

的这种病的老人，是有时清醒，有时糊涂。 他们可以时常为老人检查、换洗，就不会臭了。

加拿大家庭平均税前收入是9万多一点, 这可是两个人的收入, 而且加拿大大部分是白人, 在政府部门拿工资平均年薪十万以上依法律要求要公布, 你见到几百万白人被公布收入了? 难怪大家说你是骗子, 找机会就胡说八道.

I can definitely speak and write Chinese, but unfortunately, there are some of problems of my computer setting about my Chinese typing. otherwise, I would more like write Chinese here, it is easier for me and express more deeper. I understand Chinese culture, I totally understand -父母在不远游", Chinese culture ask you stay with wherever your parents are, and take care of them. It didn't ask you took your parents thousands miles away. without friend, with language barrier can go nowhere and have to stay home express their love endless at home. I don't need any excuse for myself because my parents do enjoy spend couple months in summer with my family and travel around Canada or nearby countries. I believe the money, care and time I had spent on my parent had not less than those lovely kids. Love means you look for the best for they not yourself. I have chance meet lots of Chinese elderly. I can say more than 80% of them miss the life in China (of course your parents may be exception). The major reason they stay here is for their kids Good. I never doubt the love between Chinese family, and I really enjoy this kind of love myself. I just sick to see some Chinese use "love" as excuse and take advantage of their parents unconditional love.

回复 zhen2005：你的父母目前比较幸运吧，现在还能两边飞。等到再过10年20年以后，不能动的时候，或者病倒一个，瘫痪在床，你是准备请长假回家照顾父母呢，还是在国内聘用保姆，遥控指挥？ 当然，如果有其他兄弟姊妹能照顾最好，如果没有，你觉得怎么做才是最好？ 都是移民，相信大家在许多问题上，比如父母是否移民，父母照顾孩子等等，应该还是能一定程度相互理解吧，毕竟这些问题困扰许多人。其实，即使不移民大家留在国内，很多家庭也是老人帮着照看孙辈的。你有钱也许请不到好保姆。只要能够善待父母，只要能处理好家庭关系，似乎没有什么不好，毕竟这是咱们中国人的传统。你小时候，你的爷爷奶奶外公外婆是否也曾照顾你？ 是否你觉得你的父母剥削了、虐待了你的爷爷奶奶外公外婆？ 也许你的父母一直按月支付工资给你的爷爷奶奶外公外婆，按你现在的想法，不少于聘用正式的保姆的工资？ 我以前的房东是广东人，夫妻俩三个孩子，三个孩子一共有10个孙辈。到周末的时候，不是这个来了就是那个来了，老太太忙忙乱乱，家庭却是和谐温馨。 除了“含饴弄孙”，你知道还有几个中国的成语，比如天伦之乐，舔犊之情，儿孙满堂，等等，这种幸福你的父母享受到的可能就少一些了。 回到本帖子的主题。我们一些真正了解事主情况的邻居，在指责事主处理不当的同时，对他们夫妻的确还是给与同情。你们目前尚不知道全部的情况，比如老太太长期罹患精神疾病的情况，比如老太太在国内养老的困难，比如在加拿大送老人院的困难，等等等等。 后面等法院判了，也许你们会了解得多一些。 无论怎么样，看到这么多人对事主提出批评，个个怒发冲冠横眉冷对， 我个人还是很高兴。咱们中国人，只有这对夫妻不懂道理，其他的老人都有福了。这个事件给许多人多少是敲了一记警钟吧，应该多多关心或远在天边，或近在眼前的孩子的爷爷奶奶外公外婆。

回复 Jackofall：Just one multiple question, when did you decide to bring you parents be in Canada. 1. I am settledown and have fair income. I can afford to hire a hourly labour support my parents for household if needed. My parents have health problem and can't take care of themself in China. I gave my parents enough allowance. I introduce my parents to some Chinese elderly entertainment centres. I coud accompany with my parents travel around in weekend and holiday. 2. I am very busy, My wife is going to have a baby. My wife and I have full time job or study, thus can't take care of my kids. My parents are very health, not only they can take care of them in China but also they could take care of others in Canada. My parents can only walk around the neighbourhood since they be in Canada. My wife and I are too busy to bring them go somewhere although they have been here several years. If you answer is "1" I admire you and will try to be a person like you. If you answer is "2" You know what it is. For the question you asked, I really don't know how to answer, it should be very painful, but I also want to ask you the same question: what would you do if one day your parents sick or paralyse in Canada? Would you or your wife quit job to take care of them? If you can only put them at home by themself , it is not better than hire someone take care of them. One very interesting thing I found is there are lots of health chinese senior live in their kids house. I hadn't see one chinese immigrant family have a sick elderly that need to take care. Looks like those parents disappera when their health deteriorate. The main point in our discussion is whether is for senior's good to bring them to Canada or just for the kid's good. Yes, my grandparents had taken care of me sometime and I don't think it is bad. They take care of me in their commuity, they have their lives and networking there, they feel belong there. besides taking care of me, they still have chance to enjoy all kinds of activity they deserve. I just make their more happy. Same situation in your ex-landlord, they have their house and their kids just visit every weekend. I believe they enjoy their own life in the other days. Those situations totally different from the situation that some Chinese elderly stay at home everyday, do nothing else but household and baby sitter. I never say it is wrong to have your parents help you sometime, it is good to have a family together. 天伦之乐，舔犊之情，儿孙满堂, they are all good words, but all those shouldn't base on the sacrification of elderly.

上周三上午10时50分左右﹐男女户主发现患有老人痴呆症的长者失去知觉﹐遂急召救护车到场。当救护员抵达现场时﹐即在车房内发现该名长者全无反应﹐皮肤冰冷。 长者被送往附近的慈恩医院时﹐证实中风﹐身体多处亦严重冻伤﹐更一度需要倚靠维生器支持﹐生命危殆。及后﹐警察跟进调查﹐发现男女户主将长者安排居住在一个略经改装的车房内。车房十分简陋。 该车房为砖墙建造﹐不但全无隔热设备﹐亦没有取暖装置﹐整个车房惟一暖气来源是一个接连?房子的通气口﹐车房内的温度比房子内的温度低20度。 有人竖起两块石灰板﹐间作一个临时房间。地上则没有任何地毡﹐长者只睡在一张铺在简单木材的?褥上。长者被发现时﹐不但身穿单薄衣服﹐她更只有一张薄毡保暖。 多伦多警方第42分局警长史东斯(Mike Stones)表示：「警员发现长者当日﹐天气不算冷﹐但当时长者居住的车房只有摄氏3.5度﹐其他寒冷的日子﹐车房有多冷﹐可想而知。」 车房亦不能直通房子内﹐车房内未设有自来水﹑雪柜﹑炉头或微波炉等﹐更没有洗手间﹐长者平日大小二便就得靠小型流动厕所解决﹔另外﹐车房内还有一个水桶﹐给长者冲身。车房内亦没有照明设备﹐相信长者到了晚上﹐所有活动都要摸黑进行。 警员发现长者时﹐车房内卫生环境恶劣﹐臭气熏天。在现场发现一片面包及一包成人纸尿片﹐估计受虐长者平日膳食不足。果然﹐长者送院后检查﹐发现她的胃部空无不物。

回复 鹿角湖渡假村：把自己有病的母亲，当作流浪猫流浪狗，任其自生自灭。 这不是人所为，不可原谅。